Becoming a parent is undoubtedly one of the most beautiful experiences of human life. The feeling is priceless and cannot be defined in words! Having a child not only brings a couple closer but their bonding also increases. Most couples do confess that their having children gave them purpose to live and look forward to something new and great. Although! things look quite cute from outside but parenting is a cake walk. Read here about snow plow or snow plough parenting
Everybody raises their children with the best of their ability or let just say all parents try to do their best in raising their children. It is often said that the first guru to a kid is his/her parents. Well, it is entirely a personal decision of every couple as to how they would like to raise their kid and in this regard there a number of parenting styles and tips available out there, but doing things the right way is important.
Honestly speaking, the term right way is quite subjective and one cannot be judgmental about parenting. Although there are a number of parenting styles such as permissive parenting, helicopter parenting, authoritarian parenting, tiger parenting, so on… This piece would explore snow plow or snow plough parenting.
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What is snow plow or snow plough parenting?
Ia m sure for some the term snow plow or snow plough parenting would be confusing and you might not know what it means. It is always hard to decide what type of a parent are you. I always consider myself a helicopter parent but I am sure I would have some traits of snow plow parenting
To start with let me tell you that there are several layers to the concept of snow plow or now plough parenting style. Often known as lawnmower parenting, it simply means that you as parent try to remove all the obstacles, problems that come into your child’s way. In this style of parenting, parents jump in to help and save their kids from almost every situation that comes in their life on a daily basis.
Well, let us take an example so as to understand the concept of snow plough parenting in a better way. Suppose in your kid’s school units are going on. After the exams are over, your kids bring the report card home. After reading it you find out that your kid has not scored in English subject. Now, you immediately either call or go to the kid’s school to talk to the teacher of the concerned subject. Instead of pushing your child to study and work hard or showing your needed disappointment over the bad grades you choose to debate with the teacher and ask him/her to change the grade by giving some vague reasons at times.
Parenting Style: somewhere between No, Don’t and Oh! what the hell.
This is a classic example of a Snow plough parenting style. In the above-mentioned case, the parent is not saying anything to the kid, not telling him/her to study more or express their disappointment instead the parents opted to solve this issue by requesting the teacher to change the grades.
As it is clear by the term ‘snow plough’ that much like snow plough clears all the snow from the road, similarly, the parents keep on clearing, covering, removing and justifying the mistakes, obstacles, and problems of life. The intention of parents doing this is not negative but they just want to give all the advantages to their kids so that they can move easily ahead in life in all the fields, be it education, job, health etc. They do not want to see their child struggling with issues of life in general.
Pros of snow plow or snow plough parenting
Well, practically speaking no one can judge a parenting style or decide which is better than what. Like every coin has two sides, similarly, every parenting style comes with its pros and cons. The same is with snow plow or snow plough parenting.
We all agree with the fact that the obstacles, mistakes, and problems arising in life, ultimately lead to learning but it does not mean that every time you need blunders to learn the lessons of life. Knowledge can be imparted through communication and connection.
So if parents are protecting their child from the obstacles coming in their life that do not imply that the concerned parent is spoiling the child in anyway. It is a simple feeling of being protective of your child whom you love unconditionally. Further, a number of parents also argue that they do not want their child to suffer and face any kind of problem.
They also hold another view that they have worked hard so as to provide a comfortable as well as good lifestyle to their child and this is why as parents they do not want their child to suffer even in the slightest way. Thus, they protect their kids as much as possible based on their.
Cons of snow plow or snow plough parenting
As mentioned above there are always two sides of a coin, thus this parenting style has its own disadvantages as well. The issue in snow plow or snow plough parenting is when the parents don’t know where to draw the line of protectiveness so that it does not turn into over-protectiveness. Trying to help your child with solving problems or being supportive during the problems he/she faces is perfectly fine.
But, when the child runs to his/her parents in every situation then this is a cause of concern and should be alarming. This is a cue for you that the child is becoming entirely and totally dependent on you. Thus, your child cannot learn to be self-dependent and self-sufficient. He/she will have the tendency to look for support in every big or small difficult situation of life. In long run this could lead to a huge problem.
To sum up, I would like to state that there is no way that parents can save and protect their children from every big or small issue they face. This is because parents are not going to be always around children. As parents, all you can do is be protective of your children, and there is no harm in that! But, at the same time make sure to teach them to be self-sufficient and self-dependent. So, that even if you are not around the child can fight the battles of life, no matter how big or small they are.
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